The other day I sent this text to my husband.
” I am tired of cleaning the kitchen up. I am tired of doing laundry. I am tired of doing anything that involves responsibility. Getting older is not fun!”
Yes, this was one of my many mommy breakdown moments that comes several times a week. All the responsibilities of being a parent can be overwhelming at times and downright exhausting and at the end of the day, we collapse from the busyness of the day. But, in the morning comes a new day and new energy and we get to do it all over again. It’s just a season and one that I don’t care to pass over. But, it’s one that has many ups and downs. Thankfully, many more ups than downs. My husband, kids and home are my life and when I look around, I feel blessed by what I see – even if the dishes are piled up and the floors need swept and the clutter is everywhere.
Most moms don’t think about their own needs before their family’s needs. It’s just our nature. We are caregivers. We nurture and plan. We make sure everyone is feed, clean, safe and secure at all times and we don’t think a thing about it. But, when are children and possibly our husbands, are grown and gone, do we have a plan in place for our care?
Moms take care of everyone else – but who takes care of mom?
I just read an article where the writer talked about working in a nursing home and that most of the residents that lived there were women. She writes….
“My first job when I was younger was as the activities aide in a local nursing home. Most of the residents in the nursing home were women, and they had great stories and volumes of wisdom to share with a young girl. What I didn’t think about then, but what I think about now, is their back story — how they ended up mostly alone, being cared for staff in a nursing home. I wonder now, were these women once caregivers themselves? Did they look after a sick parent or husband? Chances are, they were.”
A recent AARP study showed that there are about 42.1 million family caregivers in the United States (most of them women ages 40 to 60) providing care to an adult with limitations, and 29 percent of those caregivers spend 40 hours or more per week providing that care. This means that about one-third of Americans, mostly women, can list caregiving as an unpaid, full time job.
That’s just not something I’ve thought much about. I’ve not made plans for MY future should I be left alone. Will I want to live with my children? Will I want to be in an assisted living program or nursing home? And, HOW will I pay for it?
All these scenarios seems so far off, but with the way time seems to fly as I get older, the reality is that season will be here sooner than I think. So, I need to prepare. Thankfully, Genworth is able to help!
It may be hard to think about now but it will be even harder to deal with if I’m not prepared!
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